Women say it takes this long to have 'the talk' about kids in a relationship

Women say it takes this long to have 'the talk' about kids in a relationship

Over six in 10 women planning to have a family said it's an absolute deal-breaker in the dating scene if their partner doesn't want kids, according to new research.The study asked 3,000 American women aged 18-35 (approximately 2,100 of whom plan to have children in the future) about their family planning goals and how comfortable they are discussing these plans with their partners.Sixty-four percent of women planning to have kids said they need that support from their partner, and the survey pinpointed it takes an average of two years for "the talk" about kids to come up."The talk" isn't as daunting as it may have been in the past, however, as 16% of women polled shared they feel comfortable discussing family plans with a partner within the first year of dating.Conducted by OnePoll on behalf of First Response, the survey also examined the point in women's lives that they wanted to start having their families and the effects COVID-19 has had on these plans.Naturally, as partners discuss their family planning options, fertility comes into play.The results showed the average woman starts to think about their fertility at 24 and for those with children or planning to have children (approximately 2,500 women), they shared they started planning to have kids just a year later at 25.Given the current COVID-19 crisis, a third of women surveyed said these plans are currently on hold because of the pandemic.Thirty-eight percent of these women said their anxiety and stress around the pandemic has led them to postpone conceiving and 32% shared they would be waiting for a vaccine for the novel coronavirus before expanding their families.Unprecedented events aside, the results found nearly seven in 10 of all women surveyed are comfortable having a conversation with their doctor about their fertility.A further 43% of women also shared they turn to friends and family for fertility advice and 41% have turned to Dr. Google."We are glad to see women are having open conversations with their doctors and significant others to learn about their fertility and address any concerns they may have while trying to conceive," said Eileen Hsu, Director of Marketing for First Response."It is vital that women discuss fertility and conception - even if baby-making is only in the near future."As women feel comfortable having honest conversations about family planning, the survey also found 57% of women polled said they would feel comfortable having a child on their own.Women were asked what they'd like to see happen in their lives in order for them to feel comfortable having a child on their own and 68% said they want to ensure they have a steady job or income.Forty-nine percent of those surveyed who are hoping to have a child in the future — whether that's another, or their first — (approximately 2,500 women) shared they currently feel financially stable enough to have a child.This same group of women also shared they're hoping to have an average of $4,740.98 saved before their little one comes along.The survey also asked women about how early they would take a pregnancy test when they suspect they may be expecting and found four in 10 would wait until they miss their period before taking a pregnancy test.Twenty-two percent of women polled said they would wait until they anticipated their period would arrive and 15% would even take a pregnancy test immediately after having unprotected sex."As evident by the research, the vast majority of women are unaware they don't have to wait until a missed period before taking a pregnancy test," advised Mary Jane Minkin, MD, Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Yale University."Women should keep in mind that there is a window of time leading up to the day of a missed period where they can get an accurate result, just like they would if they take one after a late period.

Using a test like First Response can help you begin making healthy choices for yourself and your baby."No matter what their pregnancy journey looks like, six in 10 women surveyed said hearing their baby's laugh will always be the best part of being a mom, closely followed by watching them take their first steps and hugging them.

Over six in 10 women planning to have a family said it's an absolute deal-breaker in the dating scene if their partner doesn't want kids, according to new research.The study asked 3,000 American women aged 18-35 (approximately 2,100 of whom plan to have children in the future) about their family planning goals and how comfortable they are discussing these plans with their partners.Sixty-four percent of women planning to have kids said they need that support from their partner, and the survey pinpointed it takes an average of two years for "the talk" about kids to come up."The talk" isn't as daunting as it may have been in the past, however, as 16% of women polled shared they feel comfortable discussing family plans with a partner within the first year of dating.Conducted by OnePoll on behalf of First Response, the survey also examined the point in women's lives that they wanted to start having their families and the effects COVID-19 has had on these plans.Naturally, as partners discuss their family planning options, fertility comes into play.The results showed the average woman starts to think about their fertility at 24 and for those with children or planning to have children (approximately 2,500 women), they shared they started planning to have kids just a year later at 25.Given the current COVID-19 crisis, a third of women surveyed said these plans are currently on hold because of the pandemic.Thirty-eight percent of these women said their anxiety and stress around the pandemic has led them to postpone conceiving and 32% shared they would be waiting for a vaccine for the novel coronavirus before expanding their families.Unprecedented events aside, the results found nearly seven in 10 of all women surveyed are comfortable having a conversation with their doctor about their fertility.A further 43% of women also shared they turn to friends and family for fertility advice and 41% have turned to Dr. Google."We are glad to see women are having open conversations with their doctors and significant others to learn about their fertility and address any concerns they may have while trying to conceive," said Eileen Hsu, Director of Marketing for First Response."It is vital that women discuss fertility and conception - even if baby-making is only in the near future."As women feel comfortable having honest conversations about family planning, the survey also found 57% of women polled said they would feel comfortable having a child on their own.Women were asked what they'd like to see happen in their lives in order for them to feel comfortable having a child on their own and 68% said they want to ensure they have a steady job or income.Forty-nine percent of those surveyed who are hoping to have a child in the future — whether that's another, or their first — (approximately 2,500 women) shared they currently feel financially stable enough to have a child.This same group of women also shared they're hoping to have an average of $4,740.98 saved before their little one comes along.The survey also asked women about how early they would take a pregnancy test when they suspect they may be expecting and found four in 10 would wait until they miss their period before taking a pregnancy test.Twenty-two percent of women polled said they would wait until they anticipated their period would arrive and 15% would even take a pregnancy test immediately after having unprotected sex."As evident by the research, the vast majority of women are unaware they don't have to wait until a missed period before taking a pregnancy test," advised Mary Jane Minkin, MD, Clinical Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Yale University."Women should keep in mind that there is a window of time leading up to the day of a missed period where they can get an accurate result, just like they would if they take one after a late period.

Using a test like First Response can help you begin making healthy choices for yourself and your baby."No matter what their pregnancy journey looks like, six in 10 women surveyed said hearing their baby's laugh will always be the best part of being a mom, closely followed by watching them take their first steps and hugging them.